i’ve never heard someone think this way before, so it did shock me but idk how to feel about it. so, basically, he said that while the general belief seems to be (the stuff i’ve come across) that you should try to help a depressed person feel better and talk them out of (idk how much i can say) doing something bad to themselves if they’re considering it, that it’s actually selfish to do. he also said that people who feel/think this way are angels being called to heaven because they were too good for life on earth, and that you should respect a person’s wishes to die or a depressed person’s wish to not get better or else you’re a toxic and bad person.
i’m just curious because i don’t know if i can trust or agree with much of anything my ex says because of how he treated me and how he’d make fun of my mental health and make mean jokes/bully me for not wanting to talk to him because he’d ignore me and my anxiety, he’d just laugh at me when i said i was depressed or anxious.
Your ex is bonkers and you deserve better.
Ignoring for the moment that he’s an asshole who made fun of you (don’t ignore that, but do ignore him), the whole ‘angels called to heaven’ thing is bizarre. It’s easy to label this as religious fruitcakery, but practically all churches demonize suicide. After all, if the afterlife’s so cool that everyone is tripping over themselves to get there, then there wouldn’t be anyone left on earth to exploit.
If he had a religious upbringing, then maybe he’s messed up because of internalized homophobia or trauma. Often those families and communities pay little regard to mental health. But that’s entirely his problem, he doesn’t get to treat you like that.