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LOL, dating isn’t hard for guys. You think guys have it rough, you should hear it from the girl’s point of view. Jesus fucking Christ. These women must be horny as hell to even keep trying with some y’all. I should start a “dating tips for guys” comm.
For background; I’m 5’8", 140lbs. soaking wet, been broke most of my life (am now), no real prospects, no fancy cars, nothing. I take care of my health and hygiene, mostly, dress well (nice clothes are stupid cheap, nearly free and comfortable) and have a decent attitude towards the opposite sex. I drink loads of light beer every day, but I’m not dancing on tables or angry drunk, ever.
Look in the mirror and ask yourself why a woman might want you. You know you got flaws. What can you fix? Start fixing those things. Baby steps. Can you polish up your teeth? Lose some fat or gain some tone? Better haircut? Dress nicer? Got any interesting hobbies? And your interests don’t have to be attractive. Having a passion is interesting in itself.
What can you do? You know damned well you can do better. I’ve met very few humans I considered “maxed out” on attractiveness stats. (OK, strippers are kinda cheating, they know what they’re doing.)
And keep in mind, no one out there is judging you harder than yourself. Posted this a while back. Read it for yourself. Point being, I inadvertently saw myself from the outside, and I was surprised.
I’ll give you a pro-tip; A great first date question is, “Tell me about a fucked up first date.” Listen, learn, don’t be that guy. Some of these women had me laughing out loud. SERIOUSLY?! And have a good story of your own! You know you got one.
OK, one more; Join these dating sites as a woman looking for a man. Read the men’s sad-sack profiles, look at their pictures, and don’t be that guy. Dead animals and fancy motor vehicles ain’t gonna turn anyone on. And FFS, stop with the, “I’m a really nice guy and just want to find true love.” No. Yeah, they want love too, but they’re not interested in being your mother.
Tried that on PoF before I met my second wife. Jesus y’all, I felt awful for my gender. I really mean that. I was actually sad, really felt for those guys. But I didn’t want to fuck them. Can’t imagine how turned off the women must be, but they got stories.
Thanks, it worked ❤️
9 months of working on myself, it was well worth it.
I’d love some before and after notes! I’m hardly ever on here so I may miss it. But I’ll catch it eventually!
Uhh, the problem with dating men are the things you can’t see. Pretty much majority of men are capable of violence, have tendencies towards cheating, toxicity (or just mansculinity), men who make first good impression due to naturally hitting it off and humor, but later you realize he sees women as sex toys, ectera ectera.
Insert nice guy meme here
Being capable of violence and men being masculine are really hardcore deal breakers /s
I don’t need a gymbro who chases blonde girl next door, I need a responsible man. I don’t need someone who is incapable of managing their emotions and defaults to violence. You saying these are not bad things just proves my point that majority of men are flawed and they themselves think of themselves as husband material, when in reality you’re something useful only at a bar when I feel lonely. You’re probably the type of person that learns women tips from Andrew Tate
Insults a form of violence. Emotional violence that is. If I wanted to, I could rather easily insult you. Therefore I am capable of violence. However I did not default to it, because the situation does not call for it.
You could have replied in whatever way possible to my comment. I did not insult you at all. You however defaulted to insulting me. So unlike me you are not just capable of violence, you default to it.
That is the difference between being capable of and defaulting to. Hope you get it.