I was 15. He was 22. He bought me take away food, alcohol and cigarettes for my company.
A decade later, he was my bosses boss. And harassed me at work.
He came from a wealthy family where he was the golden child, people around town know about his tastes but no one has come forward. His family are in denial.
Some people are just pure evil.
Did you not report him?
Dating as a guy in your early 20s is a fucking minefield. Now that I’m 30 it’s better because nobody lies about being in their upper 20s or 30s, anyone who would be illegal is easy to spot because people under about 22 look like actual children to me now, and if absolutely needed it’s easy enough to just take any new dating prospect to a bar and let the bartender card them.
But back in my early 20s none of that was true. Half the women on dating apps were lying about their age. Judging age visually between about 16 and 20 can get really fuzzy. Also people who were 20 were still in my age range so taking them to a bar to get carded doesn’t work. Completely turned me off dating for a while.
if absolutely needed it’s easy enough to just take any new dating prospect to a bar and let the bartender card them.
FYI this is not allowed to be used as a defense in court in some states (e.g. mine). If you card them and they have a fake ID, you’re still criminally culpable for anything untoward.
They break the law, they lie, and you get in trouble still?
Yeah that doesn’t sound right, even ethically.
If by your sincere knowledge you’re having a date with an adult, you shouldn’t get in trouble for anything
Ignorance or belief as to victim’s age no defense
When, in this chapter, the criminality of conduct depends upon the victim’s being below a certain specified age, ignorance of the age is no defense. Neither shall misrepresentation of age by such person nor a bona fide belief that such person is over the […]
Sure
That is still not right though. If someone looks and acts 18+ and has a fake ID saying they’re 18+ and they turn out yo be 16, well, there comes a point where you really handled in good faith. When good faith becomes punishable, were in bad territory