I know this is gonna sound like the “Where exactly, so I can avoid it” meme, but I’m sincerely trying to avoid it.

I am pretty physically active, and get massage every six months or so. I have a massage therapist I usually go to, but every once in a while it’s an emergency and my go-to is booked up, so I get a sketchy strip mall massage.

About half the time it ends with a happy ending attempt. Not that I’m against the concept, but I refuse to pay for sexual contact on principle. Also that cuts into the time spent on the actual massage I came in for, and pressures me into a huge tip for something I don’t actually want.

At the same time, I don’t want to assume. It seems pretty rude to start off with “I know you’re gonna wanna give me a handjob but I’m not interested”. So is there some kind of standard “initiation” ritual that I can turn down when it comes up?

    • bedwyr@piefed.ca
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      3 days ago

      Asian massage parlour? I’ve actually never heard of another kind of handy giving parlour. I don’t pay any attention to them though so idk.

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        3 days ago

        Unfortunately they were all Vietnamese except for one. Which isn’t necessarily a problem but the way he described them it did not sound like consenting environments. Idk man I’m not against sex work but I was getting red flags from some of those descriptions. Maybe I’m biased and just imagining a sad handjob but Idk.