What’s funny is that this is so not a male/female split. I wanted casual between my long term guys, was thinking to just keep it that way, but then decided to date more seriously and was shocked at the response from these guys I only wanted casually - apparently what they wanted was to date seriously but I didn’t see them that way? It seemed like guys were settling for casual hookups because that’s what they could get, or what they were expected to want?

I didn’t want to date any of them like that! But felt kind of shitty that I hadn’t picked up on it, at all. There was zero awareness on my side that these guys were wishing for anything other than the casual hookups.

If it’s like I remember - you can choose to use rules & tools to mod on Reddit, you don’t have to, but I am not exaggerating, there were hundreds of reports per day on the normalnudes one I helped with, and hundreds of guys a week who ignored the “no isolated erection shots” and had their posts removed, also so many women advertising, both of which were disallowed on that thread- I would not be surprised or annoyed if they got a tool to recognize those.

Also it was a don’t offer critique unless it’s asked for place, otherwise if you can’t say something nice say nothing, so comments got legitimately reported all day too.

It’s hard to imagine the scale of the bad actors on that site, it’s a constant flood being held back.

It’s not like it’s a beard, though, it’s normal on all adults. I personally don’t like it on anybody, appreciate grooming but saying it’s only disgusting on women is so strange. The worst for me is guy pit hair with deodorant stuck to it, I never see that on women.

A nice and human scale userbase.

I did help mod a community on Reddit. Daily, so many reports it took a team of us to manage them. I was on there for about 15 years, it’s not a recent problem.

I single handedly (so far) mod a community here. 2.5 years, two reports total. What a joy.

Not exactly but they all get old and whiney eventually. Same as us I guess. I didn’t LOVE my husband’s dog, he didn’t train her well, but I did like her ok.

I did have a kitten so evil I might have taken him to the pound except I couldn’t catch him. He would go into unreachable spaces and piss, would hiss at anyone who approached, was just a wee spitfire demon straight from hell. But one day he metamorphed into a gorgeous long haired tomcat, sweet and gentle and smart. He used to give me kisses with paws on my cheeks, no claws. Was jealous of men, but otherwise an utter delight of an adult cat.

If this isn’t a wrong answers only question:

I would be more comfortable if the guy gave me space, but as long as you are not accosting me, a “good evening” and keep going is fine.

If it’s wrong answers only, choose any of the walks from the ministry of silly walks Monty Python sketch.

How about just every person?

Oh nevermind - all the guys would end up hung too big.

What is that even supposed to be? Even if the bread was full of whatever that is it would look disturbing.

Only women? Not men?

Pixel I have is still small. I miss the headphone jack of the original one though.

https://floridasmassagetherapy.gov/licensing/

I personally don’t wear a bra except at work. Got so tired of the unnatural barbie doll look being enforced. Even at work I don’t bother trying to pad so heavy there is no shape.

That too - padded look seems to be falling out of favor in the mainstream as well.

It’s not a sexy thing for me, it’s comfortable. I don’t need the support so no bra feels best.

Everyone should get fat as a carbon sink? Maybe, if at the end we can have natural burial, but if we are cremated isn’t it all going to be released into the air anyway?

Browned butter tomato sauce is absolutely delicious.

Burned tomato paste is delicious though. Burn it.

When using jarred sauce I usually first brown some tomato paste in olive oil, maybe with an anchovy or two. Then a half bottle of wine and let it reduce. Then the jarred sauce and let it all simmer together while the pasta cooks.

Yeah I miss my sadistic masseur so much, I used to go to a guy who was like 6’5" and strong and gay - ideal combination - and the massages hurt but I would feel so much better after. I don’t need it to feel good during the massage, what I want is to fix whatever is going on. I realize logically that the hard pressure is not necessary to release muscle tension and fix things, but it has been more effective for me personally. I want to feel better after the massage than I do during it.

There is a very severe lack of non-sexual touch In the world right now. Massage is so nice, it’s therapeutic. I get esthetician facials too - if you want a less fraught (for you) experience of the same sort of experience I highly recommend those, and so good for your skin too.

This is such an odd problem. Are massage therapists not licensed in your state? I haven’t ever run into that - I am a lady and prefer a male massage therapist, and nobody has ever been any sort of unprofessional. Husband is a man, prefers a female massage therapist and same - he jokes about it but it doesn’t happen with legit places. My brother in law and his wife go to a Korean bathhouse that looks sketchy but they say it’s similarly very safe, professional and no sex stuff. Because they don’t want to lose their state license. If massage is regulated in Florida I don’t understand how it’s not regulated everywhere.

I’d probably tell the manager on your way in that you want massage! Only massage, nothing extra.

We have 2 kids in the military and as long as it doesn’t affect them, they are just waiting it out like most of us would with a bad boss. They aren’t highly placed though.

I do think he’s a raging misogynist and racist, and doesn’t hide it. Both our military kids are white (mostly, enough to pass certainly) and men, so they aren’t being targeted directly by his policies. They do know he is making the military weaker but figure they can wait him out (again, like most of us would do with a bad boss)

I don’t think it’s so much that people are just placating him, more that he, like Trump, fires anyone who opposed him so then ends up surrounded by yes men, with no idea he’s making bad decisions. Like if I relied on copilot to help me make decisions, yes? “Oh yes, that makes perfect sense”

Yeah I am very,very sensitive to commute time, and recognize my situation is uncommon (arranged on purpose though - I won’t take a job far or more than one city bus away) I wonder how the answers would change if the office was in the same building as your apartment, or within a mile as mine is. I really don’t want any part of my home life to be my employment.