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I’m talking about emotional and financial co-dependency, like people who can afford to live on their own, who don’t choose to do so because they are unable to leave the nest because they don’t know how to function without their parent taking care of them.
Normalizing dependency is not a good thing. There is a reason ‘living in your parents basement’ is an insult, and it’s not because of the economics of it. It’s because it shows a lack of ability to grow and mature and have a functional adult life. If you are still seeking parental approval and living off the bank of mom and dad you’re not a functional dult.
Nobody cares if a 22 year old is living at home while they sort out their first job and pay down their loans. But if you’re doing that at 35+ and you have no plans to move out for the rest of your life, that’s entirely different.
You don’t understand anything. Your IQ must be fucking in negative numbers.
The fucking problem is that social mobility is a fucking myth, we’re not all in the fucking privilege bubble you live in, and we’re the majority.
You think finding a job is that easy? Even worse with the AI boom. And even if you find a job, it’s more likely to be a bad-paid shit job where you spend more going to your place of work than you get paid in wages. Then there is the issue that house prices are increasingly going up while wages are not only stagnating, but falling.
I actually think this whole concept of independence is pretty bad for society. Americans are so isolated. I get people have shit families but we often have shit families because of this concept of independence being so important.
We have 0 sense of community in America and it stems from the me, me, me, my independence stuff.
Cool. I don’t. I fucking love being independent and most independent people I know love it too. The most unhappy people I meet and have known were those who were co-dependent on their families, even if they were living alone, because they never developed emotional of fiscal dependence and a self of autonomy and self-actualization…
I don’t have a lack of a sense of community at all. But I go outside of my house and do fun shit at least 2-3 times a week. I don’t sit around on the internet complaining about how awful the world is and how awful my life is… weird how that works! Weird how being an independent self-actualizing adult is a really positive thing that makes life happy… and the alternative makes life miserable.
Almost as if you want to feel good about yourself you should… go outside and participate in life. Not sit around doom scrolling on a device in an online spaces in a cycle of self-pity and rage punctuated by bouts of feeling moral superior to other folks who don’t share in your politics or lifestyle choices
Dunno why you’re so aggro about it but okay. Nobody cares what you do and nobody is saying you don’t do them. Relax.
There is a difference between independent, in a community and codependent. It isn’t just codependent and independent.
You seem pretty angry though so maybe you should step back and think about why you’re so mad at others saying independence isn’t the greatest thing since slice bread lol