I know this is gonna sound like the “Where exactly, so I can avoid it” meme, but I’m sincerely trying to avoid it.
I am pretty physically active, and get massage every six months or so. I have a massage therapist I usually go to, but every once in a while it’s an emergency and my go-to is booked up, so I get a sketchy strip mall massage.
About half the time it ends with a happy ending attempt. Not that I’m against the concept, but I refuse to pay for sexual contact on principle. Also that cuts into the time spent on the actual massage I came in for, and pressures me into a huge tip for something I don’t actually want.
At the same time, I don’t want to assume. It seems pretty rude to start off with “I know you’re gonna wanna give me a handjob but I’m not interested”. So is there some kind of standard “initiation” ritual that I can turn down when it comes up?
Interestingly, my previous go-to massage therapist told me that “massage therapist” was the preferred nomenclature, and “masseuse” carried sexual connotations.
My go-to is very professional, but that doesn’t help me with emergencies.
My wife is a massage therapist and she says the same thing. She hates the term ‘masseuse’.
Well, tell your massuese I said hello.
(my silly and stupid joke is to imply that she does not fulfil your needs so you go to a masseuse, but it’s supposed to sound like I’m calling your wife a name she hates. Yes, yes, explaining the joke ruins, but look, it’s just a bit of silliness, okay? :) )
Upvote for explaining the joke, or I would’ve missed it!
It was a shitty joke :)
My friend also dislikes the term, but that’s because he’s male, and it should be masseur, or massage therapist (preferred).
TIL. I didn’t know that about the word masseuse. Not that I talk about massage therapists on the regular, but now I know.
I agree - that’s been my experience too.
Guess I grabbed “masseuse” because it’s shorter, haha