• reshuffle6655@lemmy.dbzer0.com
      13·
      1 day ago

      It can, it might not at first and it’s important to take it slow and use something safe. It also might not be for some people; I knew a woman who absolutely loved it, and one who derived no pleasure from it and referred to it in close company as “repeatedly shitting a dick” which might be one of the funniest takes I’ve heard on the subject. I’ve known guys on similar ends of the spectrum too, and really enjoy it myself.

      • daggermoon@piefed.worldEnglish
        5·
        1 day ago

        It’s also I have a sensitive asshole. It bleeds from wiping my ass to hard. Not to be gross but, I think I may have hemorrhoids or something. Shitting a dick does sound funny though lol.

        • reshuffle6655@lemmy.dbzer0.com
          4·
          9 hours ago

          First off, I wouldn’t worry about grossness during a conversation about anal. But uh, I guess grossness warning on the below for anyone squeamish about talking about butt stuff and the related potential outcomes.

          Shit happens, sometimes literally when you are talkin’ butt stuff, sometimes even despite multiple cleanses. Not saying you have to be into it when it does, but its good to be prepared for it both mentally (haha oops that’s my shit on the condom/strap/toy) and in terms of clean up (extra rubbers, tissues, toy cleaner, whatevs)

          And for sure don’t do anal if you might have hemorrhoids, and maybe see a doctor too for that matter; I’m only familiar with them from a former partner having gotten them once but external ones are usually visually noticeable (or noticeable by touch if you don’t want to take a butthole pic but it’ll probs hurt.) They described the pain as extreme so you’d probably know if you had them but I’m guessing that’s not a guarantee? But yeah, any wound that could potentially open up and that is near shit is possible recipe for a really bad time, so probably doctor if you are worried about them.

          I’m personally familiar with the sensitivity for wiping though; it hasn’t prevented me from enjoying a back door buddy so long as I’m mindful of not doing it for a little while after bleeding has happened. But I’ve found that I have that issue most often when my diet is terrible; a good clean diet with fiber (alternatively, a bad diet but with a multivitamin and benefiber can get a lot of the way there in my experience) can help with that.

          Also as a reminder I’m just some non-doctor person on the internet who likes anal and has a pretty candid friend group so someone else may have better, less anecdotal input or experiences which contradict what has worked for me. I’m just hoping that sharing my experience with it might help others seeking to try it.

          • daggermoon@piefed.worldEnglish
            1·
            4 hours ago

            I’m personally familiar with the sensitivity for wiping though; it hasn’t prevented me from enjoying a back door buddy so long as I’m mindful of not doing it for a little while after bleeding has happened.

            Does yours bleed then? Is there still hope for me? It’s not everytime I wipe, just to clarify. I usually use wet wipes to clean after shitting. More often than not it’s fine unless i’m having a bad shit day.

            • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
              1·
              3 hours ago

              I’ve got a hemorrhoid and it’s fine, just be careful, especially at first. Use pscylium husk (it’s that orange flavored powdered fiber supplement). It’ll help with anal, but more than anything it’ll help minimize the amount you need to wipe, which results in less irritation of the hemorrhoids. Bidets also help, but not with the anal.

              Use lots of lube, something small at first (a pinky finger is great) and go slow, once it’s comfortable you can slowly move up in size.

              This also really depends on how painful yours is. For me it’s usually fine, but occasionally it causes immense pain, which did really put a damper on anal (as did getting bottom surgery). But by being careful and not rushing I’m able to avoid the pain.

        • ikidd@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
          5·
          1 day ago

          Get a bidet sprayer you can put on the toilet water supply. That’ll give your asshole some time to heal instead of being reopened every time you wipe and prevent worse problems. You will also become addicted to having a nice clean asshole all the time.

        • timochka@lemmy.zip
          10·
          1 day ago

          That’s not very typical, I’d like to make that point.

          [In all seriousness, if it bleeds from wiping too hard you are well on the way to getting haemorrhoids, and seriously, You Really Don’t Want It To Get That Far, trust me. You’ll know when you have them… Start eating more fibre, and drinking more water, now. A bidet will also do wonders for your backside instead of wiping to the point of bleeding, but if you can’t do that then moist toilet paper is a good alternative (just don’t flush it.)]

    • I Cast Fist@programming.dev
      5·
      1 day ago

      As a cishet man, I tried a regular sized one that my ex left behind. With the whole having a prostate thing, I expected to feel something at least interesting, but after a bunch of pose, speed and angle experimentation, it felt like a nothingburger, which really left me disappointed.